.. Ever wondered why most ladies say
they want a good
guy, yet end up dating the bad ones?
It sometimes starts off with phrases like ‘oh I want a guy who can treat me right, highly educated, ambitious, financially stable, sensitive, and makes me feel good as a woman’. However, somewhere along the way she realises there is little or no deep feelings for him. In most cases, ends up going for the ones who are just all about the fast and flashy lifestyle.
Is there anything wrong with being flashy? Does that make him a bad
guy? Does having studs or tattoos make him a bad guy? The answer totally depends on the intention or image/impression he is trying to portray.
For the good guys (still exist but rare); there is nothing wrong with
being a good guy. Keep it in mind that if she doesn’t want you for who
you are, there’s a lady out there, waiting & ready to appreciate you for what you are. Now, the question here is why is it that many sensible and responsible women are attracted to ‘bad boys’? Well lets find out…
Some women feel that they are capable of changing a guy. They know they are either being treated wrong (i.e. mentally, physically or sexually abused, not appreciated, intimidated by their spouse) yet still feels she’s the only one who can transform him. There’s nothing wrong in giving a guy a chance to change or develop himself but there are some habits/lifestyle that requires professional advise/help. Meanwhile, other women prefer bad boys because of the excitement, a sense of danger or risk it brings and even the thrills that come along with it, but guess what, the outcome of the relationship usually turns out sour or a nightmare.
Ladies, we have to understand that bad boys won’t change unless ‘they want to’ and ready to change. Unfortunately, there are some women who still learn the hard way, and come up with the same ‘but I love him so much’. Honey, Love don’t slap you across the face.
Guys, few things you need to remember is there is a difference between being good to a lady, which almost feels like a friendship, and being romantic and charismatic to one. In most cases, when a guy is quite romantic, charismatic or somewhat charming, his romantic intentions are known. That way she’s able to decide if she’s feeling you in that way or not.
Guys (or us all) have our own flaws. However, there are some ground characteristics to enjoy having from a good guy (He prioritizes his time to put you and family first, confident, he listens, takes initiative, challenges himself to be a better man, he’s committed and faithful, honest, good with his money, good manners, seeks peace when possible, and shows gratitude whilst still ADVENTUROUS).
Golden’s Final Thoughts – Ladies we can’t have all we wish for in a guy, but we can develop the ones that actually try to put us first and willing to be the man we hope for.